finally......

i am sorry that i don't get on here very often to write and update. but, today i have some time, because once again i am sick and so our some kids. but, that is probably the only thing that is going wrong in my life right now. we got our house out of foreclosure, and that took a lot of weight off of me. and dave and i started marriage counseling and as much as i wanted to doubt that anything could help, it has done wonders for us. and this is a very different kind of counseling. we dont talk about each others faults, we dont yell, we do nothing but learn to communicate, listening skills, and then we have a book to read and homework, like date nights. when we left the first time, i thought honestly that it was a crock of shit, but we both committed to try the techniques and to do the homework. and i can honestly say that i am happier in our marriage than i have been in five years! dave has voluntarily offered to not do outside hobbies for six months or until i tell him that i am ok with him going. we had the best date night, and we spent no money and laughed and held hands and it was awesome. he helps with the kids and the house and is so attentive and i in turn respond to him with respect and it has started a new cycle of how we treat each other. now, i am not saying we are perfect, we still have moments, but now, we are able to really work through it and listen and not be defensive or hurt and it is so much better than what we had going for awhile! I am so thrilled that this has worked so far, and we have like 8 more weeks i think. hopefully i can keep you updated and hopefully it will still be positive news. thanks for praying for us, and keep praying, we go on mondays usually but not tonight because i am sick. things haven't felt this safe for me in years, i am optimistic that this will be the answer i have sought for so long.